Myths of Singleness
Single adults are lonely - It is true that some single adults are lonely, but it certainly does not take being single to be lonely. The loneliest person in your hometown is not a single adult, but a married adult who is in a terrible marriage!
Single adults want to get married - Some single adults do want to marry, as would married adults if they were single! For some, getting married is NOT the primary objective!
Single adults have fewer problems than married adults - Not really! Just different problems. Singleness and marriage both have their sets of problems. The single adult does not have a partner to share them with, though.
Single adults must be afraid of making a commitment - This is an ignorant, general attitude with the intention of explaining why many people have not married yet. It is basically untrue. Many single adults are wise to wait to marry after seeing the marriage difficulties their friends are experiencing.
Single adults are not complete until they are married - Because of the emphasis on “marriage and family” in most evangelical churches, single adults may feel like a “half person” at times! Phrases such as, “I want you to meet my better half,” and questions and attitudes like, “Why isn't an attractive woman like you married yet?” do little to help a single adult feel complete. The truth is, “We are complete in Him!” (Colossians 2:10)
Single adults have more money than married adults - There are a few single adults who make good money and may have more than married adults. Generally it is untrue, though! Young single adults are not into their income producing years yet; divorced single women almost always take a huge cut in their income; 60% of single-parent females make less than the poverty level.
Single men are irresponsible - Some are; then again, some married men are too! It does not take being single to be irresponsible.
Single adults are sexually frustrated - Some adults who are single again due to death of a spouse or death of a marriage are now learning to live a celibate life. The statement is true. However, we are all only one heartbeat away from singleness!
Single adults are a threat to married adults - Some insecure married adults believe this. It is almost always unjustified! It is usually the married adult which feels this, and as a result, alienates the single adult. There are plenty of single adults waiting to make a meaningful contribution.
Because:
Singleness is not a disease for which the only known cure is marriage. One IS a whole number.
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